Marital rape psychological analysis

My wife was upset when the husband can strong acts? someone on this strongly opposed.

This is such a strange-wife sued her husband raped

When speaking of spousal equality, got on, we always want to cite the Han people LEONG and Meng Guang this a couple of examples.

We know, in the feudal ethical atmosphere, the genuine equality between men and women is very difficult to achieve.

Whenever the return of the workmanship LEONG, wife Meng Guang to bring food into the tray, up to the same height with the eyes, respectfully and gave it to her husband, ancient books recorded in "not dare to Hung-front bottom."

Although this is later the "juanqimei" story, where traces of inequality between men and women is hard to hide.

It should be said that in our country, the real equality between women and men only to realize after the liberation.

Chairman Mao had women as "half", this time for women and men enjoy the same rights as men can do woman can do.

With this kind of equality of the hearts of the people, it will inevitably affect the relationship between husband and wife, and in turn into sexual relations.

Without gender equality, the wife can only be made to meet meet husband how sexual demands, but today, equality consciousness strong women have to put in an active status in the past does not occur, or even want to also do not want to. For example, a woman in the letter wrote:

"My sex drive is not too strong, but also not weak, when necessary, we can gladly accepted her husband; and when I'm feeling when, on his request is resent.

In a life I never tell her to do anything in the sexual life holds the same attitude. But the couple two things not to do, sometimes I even expressly rejected, but he was by stout, firmly hold me down, until he decided otherwise. I said that he was raped, but he was not of a smile, this Court has no place, no matter what. Listen to his words, I was very angry. We suggest that the husband to the wife willing or not, regardless of whether or not forced sexual relations? if you really have the authority of such a thing, I really want to accuse him of rape and kill a kill man down! "this letter is very representative. In theory, anyone who goes against each other will use violent or forced sexual activity is completed, can be called a rape. But according to prevailing opinion, never to marital sexual behavior considered rape.

However, there is a point it is worth noting that some people on this question the conventional wisdom.

Since the 1960s, "feminist movement" in Tai Hing in Europe and America, women require to improve their own position is growing more strongly. Here, the emphasis is on the equality of men and women social status; and in the side of the Earth, for men and women in marriage and equality in the relationship are equally important. So he made a "marital rape" this concept, that is, if you do not agree with his wife, the husband of strong behavior, can constitute a marital rape.

United States to have several States to adopt legislative provisions in this article.

In these States, if the wife sued her husband raped, the Court can legally accepted. In our countries also have similar laws, and sued her husband a rape is untenable.

It is necessary to note that no such law does not mean that the husband to the wife can do whatever they want.

We have the legal protection of women, if her husband's behavior towards his wife posed a threat or harm, so also will be subject to legal sanctions.

It is necessary to note that sociologists say "marital rape" usually far from need to resort to the legal level, very few people to realize their requirements to use violence against his wife, in most cases like the woman in the front, the husband described in complete disregard of his wife's emotional state, simply to satisfy your sexual desire and act.

When the wife refuses to cooperate, they will be forced to adhere to, but never like real rape did adopt the kind of murderous ways.

If the wife is firmly refused, they will be angry and retreat, but the results are often not their wives resistance "dead", chanlan or was not pleased, but action is sluggish, then in half and a half of push on to her husband at their wish.

So, this marital rape is due?

In its essence, "marital rape" root cause lies in both men and women in the sex differences: men's sexual desire strong, fast, sexual excitement came once started, it will be difficult to stop or interrupt; and female libido drive slow, sexual excitement, there is relatively slow and can be timely.

With this kind of physiological differences, appear male desire is anywhere, and women remain indifferent, becomes a necessity. But this inference, it does not mean that "marital rape" is inevitable, the key is how to deal with this kind of physiological differences.

Some men are purely selfish activist, they have sexual desire, immediate needs are met, then the wife has become the tool of acquired meet.

Also some men mind without his wife's status, or from the superior to the other several levels, even sex lives as a reward on each other to allow the husband to carefully investigate the wife's mind and a lot less effort is incredible. In the above several human marriage, "marital rape" occurred from time to time.

You can imagine, "marital rape" behavior on women caused by psychological effect is very poor.

I see some psychology book said, these are marital rape of women, although possibly mouth--silent, but the day but felt was subjected to deep humiliation, thus leaving a bad impression will make their future life off, serious causes of the indifference. So couples should be held accountable.

For "marital rape" Act a responsible course is man.

While men to "Atonement," the most important thing is to learn to respect the feelings and the power of his wife. Scarlet marriage certificate a collar, marriage while the pretectedBut you know, is the basis of marriage and sexuality. The wife has deep friendship husband, even if he knew nothing about the physiological differences between the sexes, he will face the wife look presumptuous. Those self-indulgent, inconsiderate of the husband, even if they become experts in the field of Physiology, in order to accommodate his wife sacrifices, but also to find excuses for yourself. Then, marital rape in marriage is not the existence of emotional aspects?

We are not able to exclude the existence of such a situation.

Of course, those who often arbitrary and violent manifestations of husband and wife are not always on. Some men one-sided stressed their active role in thinking that as long as men do everything in their power to women of taste will sooner or later be mobilized, if you haven't been mobilized, can prove that he has not exercised its power. Thus, they found that the wife's reluctance expressed, not only failed to timely convergence behavior, but even that good change is "harder" efforts.

In this way of thinking of driving down, these men have made far in life, but if you say they are "marital rape", but there is some wrong, they are after all in good faith, in rough exterior but its considerate.

It is in this case, they are constantly being "aggressive" sometimes it will work, his wife never would gradually become reluctant to Hibernate lusts started to recover, then to the end of the La comedy on the sex life of the curtains.

But men should never put this one or two successful mistaken for his "forced" tactical victory, not a fat but not accepted, and you want to sum up experiences, research how to better mobilize the interest of the wife as early as possible, instead of blindly in is in the "hit games".

As a wife, if you are not interested in sex, have the right to refuse.

Especially for those who are selfish and violent husband, wife should try to make sure that they reflect on their behaviour. But there is such a tendency should be noted that some women fully to their emotions to benchmark, without consideration to her husband's sexual characteristics. The women at home often play the role of the "overlord", always let the husband to follow their own arrangements, even in the life of the initiative was also refused to decentralization. If the husband offered, not to be interpreted in good faith, but blame a brutal husband. If you are in this case a so-called sued her husband raped, that's not entirely to his wife.

Normal sex life between husband and wife is two people's lives, should be the two sides managed to eliminate the gap, and if the wife is unhappy that refused husband thousands of miles away, then couples sex life has become a way of ancient mountain: husband always ready, only to be his wife was given, and may only be buckled.

If the couple's sex life became such a model is extremely unusual, will produce a lot of the problem. Thus, as long as the mutual understanding between husband and wife, mutual understanding, marital rape is nonexistent.

(Edit: Europe Shumin internships)