A collar of narcissistic mental

The progress of modern civilization is more and more attention to people's quality of life.

However, the quality of life but not by unilateral to fill material, especially active in the life of secret sex life of the quality of, the more difficult to rely on the material to "hedge" but must rely on the many possible even himself does not understand the spiritual and psychological factors to guarantee its intrinsic quality.

And that there is a famous universities in Beijing a just over new female expert fast calculation, her young has fast calculation at home and abroad, has been invited to schools were involved in the audit of the United Nations in Africa, Asia-key assistance projects, as the relevant international financial institutions, audit Adviser also holds for government audit survey subjects of the project, she is a lobule.

Strictly speaking, lobule is not the kind of cool, outstanding female.

But she behaved in appearance, his refined cordial, especially clothing and makeup, mix well, color-harmonic, novel style but not display, each nuances are impeccable.

She has been married for nearly three years.

Her husband is a doctor of Chinese Homecoming, handsome handsomish, cheerful, humor and rigorous, claim to have played excellent. Now the Germany Embassy in a commercial mission Agency Chief Representative.

Familiar with their people are hot and respectable this outstanding men and women.

However, they have a deep emotional crisis, lobule husband made agreements divorce.

Lobule said: "I do not agree to divorce, because I love you.

"Husband said:" is the official and his wife, you and I have sex or without passion, there's love, how the description if you respected platonic love, then I say sorry, because you selected the wrong person, I'm the husband and wife living requirements tacky, I need-MultiOrder sexual relations. "In the next few months, lobule efforts to mobilize the private life of its own and her husband. However, she failed to do, when she herself dressed very charming and very sexy, very beautiful, she always felt that the husband has a voracious stimulated. However, once the passion toward, even without a ray of light indoors, lobule is still hiding not open eyes hallucinations in a mirror. She immediately will see himself in the mirror, hair loose, slipshod and facial cosmetics are put into the face, his face was carnality, ugly pole ... Her enthusiasm was immediately rushed down cold water poured off, she wants her beloved husband met, but she is only able to maintain a deliberate and artificial ... Finally, the husband is also difficult to tolerate. This night, her husband a pushed her gas breathless to jump out of bed sit sofa one cigarette smoking, with unprecedented jerk of gloomy tone asked her: "you are so acting is not very painful. There is a word I really do not have the heart to say that I am not in love with his wife, and feel like a whore in boring clients ... We are not painful, and while we have no children, break "lobule listened, blade General pain, she cried. She said out of his own face can't be rid of the surface of the mirror in the illusion of inner fear chun and helpless.

Husband silence, for some time, said: "I believe you, but you must go and see a psychiatrist.

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Peking University, diagnosis and treatment in the psychological experience of the doctor 's.

Dr Lee on the illusion of artifacts in the lobules of exceptional note.

This very amiable middle-aged women doctors branch opened the lobular husband, cordial and carelessly and lobular chatted.

Lobule, from Northeast rural girls in Liaodong Peninsula.

When I was a child, family distress, the mother is a half-deaf of disabled persons, the father is the village blacksmith and a drunkard, her 12-year-old was in Jinzhou City salesman, married several years did not procreate aunt adopted and entered into the Jinzhou primary school.

The aunt, the aunt as she takes a bath when brushing my hair and put on some hints on a business trip to Dalian purposely bought for her beautiful dress, she looks so great the first time from Aunt big wardrobe of saw a full length mirror myself, but also her home in the ravine Groove has never seen a city dressed in beautiful girl.

Aunt and uncle loved her.

But she ultimately didn't even County into several times for the country girl, cannot avoid being made fun of his classmates. Whenever hurton, especially aunt know she hurton, always taken pains to her, she dressed to the surface length mirror front comfort her: "let them look at which point they than too I. ”

Appearance and a good strong personality within the lobule is almost the mirror so the trials, just two years time to outstanding achievements in key high schools, starting from the teenage period, she spoke more sensitive than other children's psychological attention to their clothing, bearing, speech and image.

She is studying hard, not to be outdone. But her own image, but also demanding to the slightest extent cannot be sloppy, which she always get a piece of praise. Once, to participate in the labour in rural areas, night, lying on the farm of Kang, she heard the students whisper, evaluation of the men and women students in the class who is beautiful, a student said: "my mother said I haven't seen such a beautiful girl lobule," said, Centerless, listening to others interested, lobule "casual commended even awake all night with excitement.

Lobule in school time in 26 years of age not only become a famous University Master of science in female actresses and fast calculation is also open to professional.

She's eye-opening, and seen the world, knowledge and spirit makes her and original people from rural areas into the Jinzhou City girl I misjudged her began to emotional pursuits.

Master of the lobule read almost graduated, she is a member of the Brazil meets Chinese students have.

Many times, the boys are on her cold, very quickly, she heard the boys evaluation she said: "leaflet ' we demeanour ' is artificial. ”

No one knows, lobule in this sentence, looking in the mirror and conduct their own "artificial" have long dark tears flow.

A few nights sleep several nights to person.

When her 27-year-old to the new

Plus slope in academic activities and now meet the ten feet high, that is acquaintance of a cocktail, while this time, the 29-year-old white-collar JP has just broke into her eyes, she suddenly felt like a dream for many years, "Prince charming" finally appeared, the young handsome man hands and everything in between are full of her own most suitable match for that kind of beauty.

She also did not expect, when dance music played, the mate could come straight to her, to ask her to dance, but soon parents do to say: "my first glance you extraordinary charm attracted.

... "The next time that they were dating, but before each appointment, lobule always in front of a mirror for a long time trying to dress up. In order to perfect your image.

Both were very good, both were very successful, during the course of love will get rid of those shisu trouble.

However, newly married that night, rolling boil a lobular heart, love and desire, but accidentally glanced pale green table lamps according to the dresser myself in the mirror, she felt a sudden extreme fear and panic, she had to stand in a pushed husband, wrapped tight tight with quilts.

Since then, every time she went to bed when looking in the mirror of dressing yourself to be in the evening, and her husband spend desires rising sharply to the vertex, but once the husband and wife, interdependently in front of a mirror that most afraid to see yourself in the mind of a sense of fear and panic will overwhelm all of ideas, she has been trying desperately to get rid of, but the mirror is more like a devil, to get rid of more without this appear when ... Lobule said she suspected myself suffered from mental illness, said Dr Lee, lobule of not mentally so terrible, but mental disorders is already very serious.

Dr Lee said, lobule is typical of narcissistic mental disorder.

Beauty of the heart, all the beauty of found themselves, respect for their beauty, care for their own beauty, this kind of "narcissism" psychological almost not surprising.

While the vast majority of people, on, this kind of psychological is made him into the world to find a starting point to success and establish confidence and courage of important psychological matrix.

However, an extreme since people since the formation of narcissistic mental rewards, a narcissistic as potential of inferiority in search of the balance of psychological mechanism, if not very good, very easy to overcome as mental disease.

Balance of inferiority of narcissism, often on narcissistic self identification factors extremely sensitive, lest there even themselves intolerable image or behavior. Once found, think on their own are difficult to appreciate, even difficult to accept, nostalgic ideas immediately broken, destroyed, inferiority of psychology but rather more serious, and even hopelessness.

Dr Lee said, lobule of psychological barriers clearly belong to the latter.

Lobule self little used a self appreciation of psychological mechanism to overcome their own inferiority to inspire their own career and love both succeed, but the perfect himself in the mirror is her narcissistic self identity, therefore, found that mirror an own cannot agree with her, her heart will generate confidence shaken, the potential of inferiority will make her fear, but her mental conflict just in time to make love to her husband, thus making her psychological distortion occurs.

Whoever needed to end it. Dr Lee on psychological diagnosis and treatment of lobular said, there is no panacea, doctor find factory psychological correction of a genuine problem, also depends on the patient himself.

For lobule. she must have a brand new to beauty, beauty and relative.

Lobule pursue an absolute beauty is not possible, but also the performance of the obsessive-compulsive disorder. Sex life in the heart of beautiful, talented enough without modification fully reflect the natural physiological is beautiful, beauty, only by the husband to assessment is objective, is the fact, that mirror reflects your love us, as unacceptable, reset it to somewhere else, must not let it hinders your passion with Jan. For lobule husband to tell his wife to, you appreciate the beauty of his wife usually also appreciate her during sex life of beauty, to caress and linguistic transfer his wife at the crucial moment of compelled association. A successful sex life will bring you the self-confidence of the turning point, the wife will result, her decoration dressed and groomed, will be her temperament of high quality fully reflect that she would be out of the shadows, and exists only for himself, no longer cares for assessments.

【 Psychologist comments 】 dressed microphylla pursuit of beauty, beauty of temperament is above reproach, but her during sex life cannot accept hair loose, slipshod, according to the China fade etiquette-image, in addition to the strong tendency of narcissism, I'm afraid at formation of obsessive-compulsive personality disorder, or acquired the concept of forced (pursuit of self-image moments perfect), is the more important psychological reasons, therefore, a priority is to find lobular psychiatrist, correcting their mental disorder.

In this case, we can see that people with mental illness, has its own causes and complex behavior.

(Edit: Europe Shumin internships)