AA-couples: Penny or feelings

About visit: North-North, female, Hainan and a newspaper reporter.

And to struggle for years in Hainan and small savings for many women, the strong North-North independence, although emotional attachment to her husband, but money, she was unable to match. In fact, money in many families have the gunpowder barrel, many couples in life may have to face such problems, how do you score? how to open and share?

At the end of 1992, I would like to approach into the Hainan a big newspaper, started my career as a reporter.

It is more than six years, six years, I like a workaholic that work to the end of 1998, I was finally able to buy a House, 3 room, the community is also good, you can see the sea. At this time, I also have 30 years of age.

Age to tell myself to be married.

At that time I also count as a famous Hainan Island is a small press, feel free to marry a man certainly I cannot accept. But the rich have the right conditions for good men to marry and unmarried has several? When encountering Wei Lingyue has been two years, I've seen the number of men have a few more.

Wei Lingyue is the Bureau of personnel, have been briefly married before, because his ex-wife out of the country, and not come back, so divorced.

His salary is not high, lived the suite one bedroom and one living room, one is really easygoing, looks good, speaks more will not, as some men, a mouth that want to take your questions. Half a year later, we started talking about marriage.

Previously I have said that the House could use my, he immediately said marriage costs him out.

I think, I'm here to nearly 300 decoration, married up to spend five 60 000 also is enough so that he would not pick up a bargain in money, in my opinion, not vague. Our age is small, the marriage was a more realistic, find a partner, as a home, settling a idea much litter too because the depth of feelings and ideas must be together.

AA system is proposed, I said it's not that I don't believe in him, but rather concerns the future too.

Marriage so pay up. In accordance with our agreement, cost of living is our request, each monthly took out a thousand bucks, a dinner and daily expenses. Meet the people of things, took his own.

Wei Lingyue salary is not high, the thousand per month, and I just do a normal magazine publication layout, each month is not a problem with before.

Although the same under the eaves, but our respective standards of living also vary considerably. This time, took to the streets to see something on his right, I will also buy back to him.

Although Lingyue make money, but people pretty lazy, temper good, normal life we really hit it off.

The winter of 2000, in an instant, suddenly received a hometown of lingyue Telegraph, to cover the House, you need a sum of money. He came to me, that if you can send it back before five bucks. I said no, we get to ask, AA system, all the people out there, his thing makes no sense to me out of the money. He was very angry, said: "even if it is difficult to hear my friends will lend me money, we're still married?. ”

I can see, his pride was hurt, but I still think I cannot compromise.

At the same time, I found herself pregnant. Because of pregnancy, my work basically stopped, income immediately only 1 piece of money, but this time is obviously more of the costs and revenue of $ 2000 per month to make our life was tensions.

I never told me ten years lingyue million of deposits, but at the same time I also hesitate to not take part to the flowers.

At the same time, the mother was hospitalized again lingyue, this time he did not bring money to me, I was in his bag found home money. One night in March, lingyue rushed dinner told me he wanted to work overtime and then riding a motorcycle.

He came back, is a bit much at night.

I was suddenly gedeng, so late, that he will be out there doing? is it because my pregnancy and family economic status of tension that he had wanted to vent their thoughts easily?

Since then, more than a month in a row, lingyue every evening meal to go out.

I several times playing his cell phone, he is off, ask it, he just said no, afraid of influence.

I know that he intends to deceive, but he also made it clear in my mind, but he is not saying.

I do not want to continue to prove anything, this will only let me again congratulate yourself keep a clear head, even if it really happened, and I've got enough money to deal with. Lingyue patience finally keep to the end, outside of time, he returned to the House seems to be especially big temper.

The people are lazy, do not want to speak, if I ask a few words, he just impatient breath begged me to let him be quiet.

Watch him all the way out of it, I was especially anger, I suffer the pain of pregnancy, but he did stick out. "War" at such an atmosphere.

That night he came back very late, as usual.

I hear he shuffled into the door, down a cup of water to drink. I was lying in the bedroom, but outside the movement has listened carefully, he even hand did not wash came in. I don't want to pay him, closed her eyes put to sleep, he slipped off her clothes, even going to bed down!

My days of rage finally found vent opening, breathe and sat up, with his legs kick kick, gave him a curse: "rolled down, get out there, there are so dirty face to go to bed!" no preparedness, lingyue being kick at the waist, immediately hit the bed.

He looked at me as if to ask I am doing. I did not give him a break, immediately put pillows quilt all rushed him to drop it down. I break downsRefresh and cried: "you do not want to go home? do you go to the devil.

The children I will be off, a clean break from us! "

He finally jumped, called: "you what nerve! I'm too tired to die before they have a bath, and the one like this?" So saying, he rolled up pillows quilt on the living room. He still didn't want to tell me he is fooling around with something every day on the outside, but from that day on, we are really living.

My patience has reached its limit, I think he can go to a gay night, why do I have to keep this desolate House, I can go out to play.

So a few days, I have not stayed in the home, about a friend one night and go shopping, watching movies, listening to music. My heart was proud to see our who played who.

Not to think, one night, just before Liberation road, I was sitting in a shoe shop on shoes and suddenly saw the door near the street lingyue.

He was wearing a helmet, sitting on a motorcycle, handle also hanging a blue helmets. At first I thought he was waiting for someone, but soon I will know what he's doing. Originally he was doing, that Moldova's hand in Haikou is to get caught, but this place on the one hand, on the other hand also passengers because Mo's hands are more concentrated, urban management, they immediately become scattered and fled.

A passenger, and he and a bunch of people at once a foot on the floor, slowly slipped past.

Last lingyue on a price, he experienced the helmet to the passenger's hand, then with this person. My mouth open, half-day to back but God. I can't earn money while debunking lingyue for doing something Mo's hand, which may be in our common life to save the dignity of the last line of Defense. But the real total elimination of AA, but two months later.

Lingyue "Mo's action" Finally let him take back smugly 扬扬 to 6000 more bucks, of course, he says, is to help people do budget earn extra money.

I left without any word money threw them into the drawer, I jokingly say that they now earn no money, AA system must be completely abolished in our family. Daughter is born, by the end of this was born, I own the remaining 14 sure-fire took out to lingyue, I let him go and buy a car, because later we will use the car. To put the money into the hands of lingyue in that moment, I know this is the real emotions for delivery to the marriage, to my beloved.

(Edit: Europe Shumin internships)