In psychotherapy Center guest doctor during many married men.
Their one common anxiety is: why sex is no longer like a honeymoon, so passionate, sometimes even feel that smell like complete oligo certain tasks.Also many women complained that her husband is "abnormal" is no longer the "boom."
Even directly asked "he is in love with someone else, or suffering from impotence?"Why are young and healthy married man to lose interest in sex? one would like to apply for a PhD student in and talk to us, said that his sex life as a "job" to complete.
His research work very hard, but also to prepare for the exam, faced with competition, every day to keep up morale. Home, then make a "active man." Therefore, he was tired, spent physically and mentally, little by little to lose interest in sex. Another gentleman who complained that his wife on the sex is too aggressive, but take them away his original conquer desire and enthusiasm, he feel lost. The majority of men is because on the marital sex inevitable decline and uneasy. So often avoid sex life, from the original interest is gradually transformed into a burden.To do this, first of all, it is necessary to recognize the existence of the problem; they explicitly tell them, no disease; finally pointed out that the problem lies in the psychological adjustment on the deviation, there is some ambiguity or error.
To get rid of sexual difficulties, to do the following:1.
The number does not prescribe a standard for making loveThat is, having sex position to straighten.
For some couples, each month having sex once a better effect, the two sides also met. While some people may be five times a week do love feel satisfied. This is the individual differences are not required. If both parties understand each other, taking honesty to say they feel, will be coordinated, not each other about jealousies, otherwise they would form a vicious cycle.Many men are "times" to measure their own sexuality.
In fact, the quality of life. Break this superstition, it will not produce anxiety.2.
Emotional engagement is not necessarily sexual behaviorMen generally considered gender contact must contain sex acts, this is wrong.
Sexuality has many aspects, is not necessarily always have associated with sexual intercourse. Woman most clearly the fact that, as long as there is some sense of touch is sufficient. That is, when the wife took the initiative to hold you, do not necessarily require you to "mean", maybe she just looking for a warm feeling.3.
SystematicSex should be planned, only then can we have a tacit understanding between husband and wife.
In fact, the two men set "life plan" and a very sensual pleasure. For example, a gentleman will complain that said: "my wife usually like to do housework, child to sleep after having sex, but I just could not at this time. "Results" of "not every time, sleep are not happy. Visible for the "plan" is very important.4.
Play point romantic figureBoth husband and wife alone together, you can point a candle dinner; or two leg cover blankets, on the balcony watching the Moon chat, revisit the first tender ...
Now many couples also fashionable "lover sex way" that is, from time to time to the hotel to go for the night. In a casual way to enjoy sex, and feelings are often particularly easy to dilute the pressure, and to enhance the cohesion between husband and wife. Love is no fixed formula, sex life, too. Please keep in mind that the creation itself will be very happy. It is also important that there is no best, only suitable for you way.(Practice editing: Lai Wei-Jian)
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