According to the biological development of the law, a person to puberty, along with the increase in hormone secretion, began to desire and sexual problems of concern is very natural.
On the contrary as congenital or acquired endocrine disorders and other reasons, by the organ Dysplasia, or because of social, family upbringing improperly, can also be caused by psychological development disorders or abnormal sexual sensitivity, adolescence is one of them.Here's two examples.
One student wrote a Readme Gaozhongnv said: "I am 16 years old, new life, something you cannot see through and want to do.
I would like to ask, why is now the boy girl showing different previous attitude. My cousin is in this way, we were free to play together, there is a one year older than my cousin, everybody laughing can be happy. But now grown up, but different. Everyone said I was good, beautiful and kind ... So I look like a star with her cousin, buy things to me every day. I asked why he didn't give his sister, he said "she not worthy"! I really do not understand, why not enjoy a cousin to these substances? I get stuck. Also, why would someone on our girls so interested? it was a month ago, one night, the sky is no Moon, only very few of the stars (this is not the ghastly scene intentionally description, which is true). I and the class a female classmate to toilet when I saw the wall as if something one movement, I'm a nervous and thought of the devil, was really scared, but couldn't resist and glanced at the pitch-dark, it clearly is a male students face scared me a yell. Then, my heart day are joyous jump, long quiet. I do not know why, but now I see the boys are afraid, it seems that their eyes are looking at me, hiding, sucka. To this end, my passion was dismissed, or even from school, dropping out, but there is a contradiction, because I cannot help but still think school, think of those who every day watching my male classmates, in fear, has a kind of taste. ”A 19-year-old male college students write consulting said: "I am a very reserved person, from childhood in parents of strict education, studying, studying only know.
Admitted to the University, the first time outside the home, the world seems very strange to me, it all feels fresh, but also terror. Female students in the class a lot, really, they are like a flower that is so delicate and elegant, many large cities of male students and they said that playing with each other, dance, I always wanted to learn how to get them close to them, but every time I do get a big red, not even close to it, such as sweat, I was very distressed. For physiological driver, I sometimes masturbation, want to meet their own fantasies, but afterwards always regret and emptiness. Have a dream, I do not know where it came from the guts, I should hold a student ... Waked overhow, feel that they do bad things. During the day, as always recall dreams, slowly head appears a wish to embrace the idea of a woman. To see if a female classmate, this bad idea, but I understand that it is immoral to crime, but just couldn't, so I had to lie in the dormitory all heads to sleep, most afraid to see a woman. I have been very painful, but can't be rid of this idea. I thought of suicide, want to die to punish yourself ... "From the surface, the former have "the" social phobia, fear of the opposite sex; the latter is obsessive-compulsive disorder, irrepressible thoughts, but it causes, because of mental development delay caused by the "allergy".
Development of hysteretic main reasons are lack of from childhood to adolescence, this stage of early sexual education. Some parents often own early experience and tradition of rearing children, half of ignorance. Scientific knowledge on other financial returns, but for the people of knowledge has to be closed, results in physical and mental aspects may be a high one, and the psychological level is often lower than normal. And let the children go to great pains in adolescence, resulting in over exploration of confusion among the metamorphosis, why not let them correct the sex education transition smoothly?The first girl, is in the nature of the germination period, have started to notice she male in concern, the psychological result of unusual feeling, this kind of feeling mean? she also said that it is not clear.
The second boy, apparently because parents too atresia-rearing its lack of good interpersonal communication. Parents just told him that he is a man or a woman, men and women are different, but not told his men and a woman's social role and all future development. There is the fact that earlier the importance of education. In the South Pacific in Samoa live, there is a tradition of social customs, there are children in the 10-year-old left-right from the parents teach relevant knowledge, such as a boy, experimentation, and even get married girls menstruation, fertility, and so on, grow up, they are not the men and women it is mysterious, everything is so natural. In the investigation of their young people's mental health status, seldom found teenage sexual problems. In other words, their early sexual education, access to the "acquired immunity".The spirit of modern outstanding analysts Freud once said, the more he was being detained, the more people yearning for something.
Once such a detention and biological law conflict, the lack of proper induction and self-regulating ability, will often fall into the anxiety, resulting in the formation of a biological desire sum confrontation between social norms, which is the allergy occurs mechanism.So, how can we prevent teen sex allergies? key is the sex education, this education should
Three ways to begin. A basic knowledge of Physiology, the second is the psychological characteristics of adolescent male and female, of social and moral awareness. People should know that the men and women of puberty, has its own inner world, they closed a world that is full of fantasy and lust, but very few parents that seek to suppress part of its natural vent or growth, part you may speak to the companion and friend, from exchanging their experience in understanding and insight. So some parents do not know the children, psychological what failures, knowing that the mood is wrong, ask them not to, so I had to give, as long as no exception in respect of acts.Depending on who is going to release the pain? only to find a psychiatrist.
Sexual sensitive adolescent girls and boys should be timely to find a psychiatrist for consultation, the ideas and issues in full, and then follow the doctor's psychological guidance. Belong to the general nature of sensitive (as in the first case) after grooming, will quickly improve. In special circumstances (such as the second case) is going to take the psychological treatment and drug therapy to combine measures. First of all through drug release anxiety, tension and fear reaction, and behavior therapy (mainly systematic desensitization and relaxation training). In fact, have forced the thinking of people, infrequently behavior issues, so there is no need to worry about making illegal moves. A wide range of communication to express their feelings, the more knowledge to broaden our horizons, with this closed heart gate will automatically turn on the person's mind clear again. So-called social and moral consciousness, is in the process of social adaptation. Community has done a reasonable everyone accepted guidelines, that there was no need to add a layer of discipline, ideological stand still.(Practice editing: what gold swallow)
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